Consider the Following Statement...

“Suicide is not chosen; it happens
when pain exceeds
resources for coping with pain.”

That’s all it’s about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn’t even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.

Don’t accept it if someone tells you, “that’s not enough to be suicidal about.” There are many kinds of pain that may lead to suicide. Whether or not the pain is bearable may differ from person to person. What might be bearable to someone else, may not be bearable to you. The point at which the pain becomes unbearable depends on what kinds of coping resources you have. Individuals vary greatly in their capacity to withstand pain.

When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are the result. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain versus coping resources.

You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1) find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.

Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.

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So back to Ben. Why am I like this? Pain. And it's exceeding my ability to cope. Do I plan to take my life? No. But I would like to call a couple of people out without naming names: I'm _NOT_ Emo - But I _AM_ in pain. A LOT of you, whom I call my friends, would just wish my pain away, tell me to get over it, to suck it up, to just "move on." It's not that simple, no, shut up, it's not. If it WAS that simple, if I could just MOVE ON, don't you think I WOULD? I don't LIKE being this way. This is NOT a fun, pleasing, or even advantageous place to be! All cons and no pros, and I hate it. So why am I like this? Have you ever stopped to find out before JUDGING how I am?

Some of you will just push me away even more after reading this, writing me off as being weak, looking for attention, whatever. To those of you, and excuse my french, but FUCK YOU. If that's how you really feel, we'd both be better off without each other.

Some of you won't change your stance at all. To you: Get lost with the others. Friends are supposed to help and support each other - I'm not asking you to solve my problems, but a little support in finding the answer goes a long way. Don't offer solutions, because you obviously don't have them, or I'd be better by now - Instead just offer support. That's what I need right now.

Some of you will see that I just need support, and to those of you, I thank you with all my aching heart... Thank you, my true friends...